Learn how to make a blended family work, without feeling overwhelmed.
Being in a blended family can be overwhelming and defeating. Trying to be a good stepmom or parent can feel impossible. Stepmom & Blended Family Counseling can provide the specific support and resources you need to be successful.
Being a stepmom and blending a family can be a wild ride. You need someone who understands that there really are no “right” answers or “perfect” solutions. Our Stepfamily Therapist understands that you need a safe place to talk honestly about your experiences, and brainstorm how you want to grow through this very challenging and sometimes unfair process.
If you’ve found yourself wanting to talk with someone who understands the complexities of being a stepmom in a blended family, our Stepfamily Therapist can help!
Find success in your role as a Stepmom in a Blended Family.
Someone who doesn’t understand the unique challenges you’re facing cannot help you create the unique solutions you’ll need to overcome them. Our Stepfamily Therapist understands what it’s like to be a stepmom, trying to blend a family.
Being a stepmom can be isolating. Sometimes it’s painfully obvious that as much as you want everyone to be a big happy family, your family is divided.
Being a stepmom can be uncomfortable. You might even feel uncomfortable in your own home at times. You will face uncomfortable situations constantly, and coming to peace with that is a great goal, but sometimes it can feel impossible.
Being a stepmom can be defeating. You want everyone to be happy. But most of the time it seems like no one is happy. You want everyone to be uncomfortable, but it seems like everyone has something to complain about.
Being a stepmom can be exhausting. You are trying to manage everyone’s emotions, as well as the schedules, the communication, the conflict with the ex partners.
Being a stepmom can be demanding. You often feel like you’re living on borrowed time. Or you’re constantly trying to pack things into small windows. You want your children to have good experiences, but you often are so exhausted that your life feels unmanageable and unsustainable.
Stop doubting yourself and regain your confidence.
Being a stepmom can make you doubt yourself more than you ever have. It presents constant emotion, financially, logistical, social etc challenges.
It’s important that you learn how to exit survival mode and start feeling more in control of your thoughts, emotions and schedule.
You’re doing a hard thing, it’s time to admit it and get the support you need.
Imagine if you could feel successful in your role as a stepmom. Imagine if you could find peace in the stepfamily storm of life.
Stepmoms can feel connected. It’s important to recognize the connection you need. The level of connection or intensity of connection might be different for you at different seasons of life. Our Stepfamily Therapist will help you determine the level of connection you need at your current stage, and help you set realistic expectations of how you can ensure that connection. Many of our clients find that they need to create a new measuring stick for how connected they feel. They might determine that connecting with their stepchildren is not realistic, but they can connect with their spouse in an intentional way. Some people find that spending time with a supportive friend, family members or a biological relative can provide the connection they need.
Stepmoms can feel in control. Our Stepfamily Therapist will teach you how to use an emotional regulation tool that helps you remain in control of your thoughts and emotions, regardless of what is going on around you.
We like to remind our clients that this process won’t be perfect, but it can be more peaceful. By identifying the triggers that make you feel anxious, angry, sad etc, you will be able to choose what behavior you’d like to respond with. All too often we spend time being negative, catastrophizing, self criticizing, obsessing over a solution etc. Those are all behaviors, but we don’t always label them and recognize when we are engaging them. When you learn your triggers, and the default behavior they produce, you can choose a new healthier behavior.
It’s very simple. We all have a pattern. When you see it on paper, you can start making changes to the pattern. Often our clients find themselves choosing to disengage from the conflict, spend 15 minutes completing a task that provides instant gratification, practicing gratitude by focusing on three good things in their life, connecting with a supportive friend or family etc. They choose a new behavior that lets them accomplish their goals, regardless of what the current chaotic situation presents.
While so much of stepfamily life feels out-of-control, you can control more you realize by having a specific plan on how to respond to things.
Stepmoms can feel confident. Most stepmoms are not ready for the level of criticism they receive from so many different directions. From society’s view of the wicked stepmother, to your new in-laws, to your parent’s ex, to your new stepchildren and maybe even your own friends and family that have thoughts about how you should behave in the stepmom role. It’s very unclear what stepmoms need to do to be considered successful by others. In Stepfamily Therapy, you’ll learn how to move past other’s expectations and judgments and focus on your unique situation and what you feel is a reasonable expectation of yourself. Anytime we lose clarity, things become very overwhelming. As a stepmom we want you to have clarity on what you need to be doing to consider yourself successful, and exactly how you will ensure you’re able to accomplish it.
Stepmoms can feel supported. Not everyone can understand what you are going through. Did you know that there are 60+ different possible combinations of stepfamilies. So even other stepmoms sometimes don’t understand your specific situation. Our Stepfamily Therapist has learned that every situation is different, which means everyone should be considered the expert on their situation, and needs first and foremost to be supported. Stepmoms need to create a network of people who can support them first, and then equip them with tools and resources second.
How Does Stepmom & Blended Family Counseling Work?
Online Stepmom & Blended Family Counseling allows you to conveniently get the specific stepfamily support you need.
You might have questions about what the counseling process will actually look like. We intentionally do not put exhaustive information on this page because, as we mentioned earlier, there are so many different situations, and each one requires a different solution.
What might work for one family, will be impractical for another. It’s with your trusted counselor that you will determine what works best for you and your family. We have some clients that attend individual therapy so they can get the support they need with managing their role. We also have some stepfamily couples that attend counseling to work on their relationship, as well as manage the ups and downs of blending a family.
We’re big on emphasizing that there is no right answer. If you have been needing to talk to someone that uniquely understands your situation and can help you get control back of your thoughts, emotions and schedule, meet with our Stepfamily Therapist.
Stepmom & Blended Family Counseling FAQ
What is Stepmom & Blended Family Counseling?
How does Stepmom & Blended Family Counseling work?
What is Stepmom & Blended Family Counseling?
When is Stepmom & Blended Family Counseling needed?
If your relationship feels like it’s suffering because blending a family isn’t working, therapy can help!
If you’re unsure what to do to stay in control of your thoughts and emotions when things out of your control happen, therapy can help!
If you’re having a hard time letting little things go, therapy can help!
How much does Stepmom & Blended Family Counseling cost?
A note about finances for stepfamilies. Most of the time there is an added stressor surrounding stepfamilies that have shared custody and make child support payments. We understand that finances can be a stressful topic, however, we’ve learned that Stepfamily Counseling is an investment you choose to make to ensure this relationship is successful. The divorce rate increases for someone that marries for the second, third or fourth time. It’s our goal to provide the support and education that stepfamilies need to ensure their relationship and family is a success.
How long does the Stepmom & Blended Family process take?
The process of blending a family looks different for each blended family.
This means that the counseling process will also look different for each blended family.
How do I know if Stepmom & Blended Family Counseling is right for me?
If anything on this page gave you hope.
How often should I have a session for Stepmom & Blended Family Counseling?
Stop Stressing: Start Getting Support
If you’re ready for your stepfamily to feel more manageable, start Stepfamily Therapy.
Schedule a free consultation with our Intake Specialist who will provide information, answer your questions and get you matched with a therapist.
Getting started can be the hardest part. If you’re uncertain about starting Stepfamily Therapy, just think how much better life could be in two months if you didn’t feel like things were out of control.