It’s okay that you don’t know what to say.
Talk to someone who understands. Our Grief Counselors provide a place where clients can deal with the pain and confusion that comes with grief and loss.
Grief is confusing. It can make you doubt everything about yourself, and everything else.
When our grief is great, it feels like it consumes us and our life. Learning to process and accept grief isn’t about “getting over” what happened, it’s about being changed by what happened in a way that doesn’t result in you also losing yourself. If you have a high standard of how you should be progressing, coping, or “moving on” you will be disappointed because grief is about taking care of yourself – not constantly judging, assessing, and ranking your progress.
Our clients report finding peace during grief and loss counseling because of the psychoeducation they receive about the grieving process. During therapy, you will learn that it’s normal to feel like you’re on a roller coaster of emotion and feel more out of control than you have in previous times. With therapy, you will receive the support you need to move through this painful experience and find ways to take care of yourself while still showing honor to the memory of the things lost.
It’s okay if you don’t feel like yourself anymore.
Most people struggle with understanding why they feel so different. Our Grief Counselors understand that grief brings confusion, plus so many more symptoms.
Grief is tiresome. If you’re feeling more tired than you have before, you are probably a little worried. You might even wonder if you’ve somehow changed. You might feel insecure because it doesn’t seem like you can do as much as you used to. Don’t fixate on your change in energy and conclude that you’ve changed; recognize that your life has been changed. Experiencing fatigue during the grieving process is normal and to be expected. It will improve as you move further along in the healing process.
Grief is lonesome, even if you’re not alone. When humans lose something, it doesn’t matter how big or small, we are reminded that we are affected by life. When life seems to be too much, it can feel very isolating. Even when you are surrounded by people that love you and are trying to understand, you can still feel completely alone. Therapy clients report that even if they are experiencing a loss, even if they are physically surrounded by people, they still feel deeply alone. Learning to cope with grief & loss can be one of the most challenging things our lives present.
Grief is saddening. Grief and loss bring sadness. Despite your best efforts, you cannot lessen the sadness. Well-intentioned people try to help you stay focused on the positive, and focus less on the sadness, but it’s pointless. One of the hardest parts of experiencing grief and loss is that there is nothing you can do to change the fact that you feel sad. It’s a process that cannot be rushed and must be endured. It’s easy to get discouraged and overwhelmed by feelings of sadness. With therapy, you can learn how to have realistic expectations for yourself during the grieving process, and find ways to help you cope with your specific loss.
Grief Counseling can help you make sense of why you feel the way you do, and set realistic expectations for when you’ll start feeling more like. The challenging thing about grief is that there is no avoiding it. Our Grief Counselors feel humbled when our clients allow us to join them at one of the most confusing times of their lives.
It’s okay that you are doubting yourself.
Another frustrating thing about grief is that it not only changes how we feel, it can change how we see ourselves.
It can make us doubt ourselves and our decisions.
Most of our clients find that they are dealing with some version of the following questions.
Why don’t I feel like myself? You’ve lost something that made you, uniquely you. When you think about it, it makes sense that after you’ve lost something that has made up the you that you know, you won’t feel like you. In fact, you probably feel worse than you ever have, and less like yourself than you ever have. This is why coping with grief and loss is one of the most soul-testing things you’ve ever experienced.
Will I Always Feel this Way? The sadness you feel has the ability to cloud your judgment and tell your brain that you’ll always feel this way. While you might never feel the way you have in the past, you won’t always feel this way. You’ve lost something dear, and that means you and your life have changed. It can’t go back to “normal” but it can improve. It won’t always feel this bad.
Am I Depressed? In our society, there can be some extra baggage around the word depression. Depressive symptoms are actually part of the normal grieving process. When you’ve experienced a loss, it’s normal to feel sad/depressed about the loss. Not everyone understands that you can feel depressed about your loss, without actually being depressed
You can find hope and healing.
Talk to someone who understands what you’re experiencing, and can help you find a way to let your grief be something that is a part of you, rather than something that consumes you.
Finding a way to move toward hope and healing can be impossible. Our Grief Counselors understand that you might not know how to, but that you want to honor the person you lost in a way that is meaningful. Grief Counseling is designed to help you through your unique journey with grief and loss. Schedule a consultation with our Intake Specialist and get matched with a Grief Counselor.
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